Proface

Bill Eddy has worked as a family lawyer, therapist and mediator. His expertise is in handling high conflict personalities in legal disputes. Randi Kreger is an expert on Borderline Personality Disorder. Together, these two professionals have written the book "Splitting" which they have sub-titled Protecting yourself while divorcing someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder."

According to the authors, people with personality disorders have cognitive distortions that they believe are real and act upon them in aggressive or defensive ways. If other individuals try to confront them about these or there is any type of stress in his/her life, the person with the disorder feels threatened and escalates their behaviours. They view others in a black and white manner meaning that they believe the other person can either do no wrong or nothing right. Their fears increase and they react by launching verbal or physical attacks, making false accusations or attempting to manipulate situations.

The person with Borderline Personality Disorder tends to feel unworthy and fears either real or imagined abandonment. On the other hand, those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder lack empathy, feel superior to others and fear being seen as inferior.

Personality Disorders usually begin in childhood or adolescence and therefore are ingrained in the individuals by adulthood. In fact, they appear to have two personalities. Because they truly believe that their perspective is correct they blame anyone who doesn't agree with them. This might include their ex, lawyer, therapist or even a judge who does not give them what they want and think that they deserve.

"Splitting" not only clearly describes those with personality disorders and what to expect from these individuals when they are going through a separation or divorce but also teaches the readers how to protect themselves and reduce the conflict that